A Bob Dylan song played the night John Lennon humiliated Yoko Ono
John Lennon and Yoko Ono's relationship is not measurable by normal standards. Nevertheless, some of his treatment was callous in the extreme.
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Sun 19 January 2025 17:30, UK
John Lennon and Yoko Onoâs relationship is not measurable by normal standards. They met at a point when he was the most famous person in the world, or perhaps more accurately, the most famous person in history, and he was little more than a boy. They quickly fell in love, but everything unfurled in the public eye, casting their existence into an unprecedented realm.
Nothing was straightforward from then on, even his widely documented Lost Weekend days when he fled the relationship with his assistant. If you ask May Pang, sheâll tell you there was always tenderness at the heart of their galavanting daysâeven from the beginning. âListen May, John and I are not getting along. Weâve been arguing. Weâre growing apart,â her book, Loving John, startingly opens, documenting a discussion between the young assistant and Yoko Ono. Contrary to all conventional imaginings, according to Pang, the whole thing was largely started, orchestrated, and terminated by the Japanese artist.
The cracks had begun to show in a damning public display a few months prior to this supposed chat in 1972. Lennon and Yoko Ono were at a party at Jerry Rubinâs apartment in New York. The premise was an election watch-along, but alcohol soon began to take over. This became particularly apparent when it became clear that Richard Nixon â a candidate that Lennon loathed â was about to win. In fairness, Lennon was right to be wary. Unsealed documents years later would prove that Nixon was actively plotting to have the former Beatle deported during his tenure.
However, this can serve as little excuse for his reprehensible behaviour that nightâeven if his relationship was decidedly unique. While the party was still in full swing and his wife was chatting to the fellow guests, a drunken Lennon slunk away from the crowd to a bedroom with another party guest, where they began loudly having sex.
The coupleâs friend, Elliot Mintz, was also at the party and he recalled in his memoir, We All Shine On: John, Yoko, and Me, the sad night. âThey proceeded to have such loud, raucous sex that everyone sitting around the TV in Jerry Rubinâs living room â including Yoko â could clearly hear them going at it.â
John Lennon and Yoko Ono (Credit: Alamy)
It was loud, unmistakable and shameful. Worse still, it was inescapable. Lennon had chosen the room where all the guestâs coats were being stored. So, everyone was trapped in the living room, listening. âThroughout it all, Yoko sat on the sofa, in stunned, mortified silence, as other guests began awkwardly getting up to leave,â Mintz added. They soon realised they, because their keys were being held hostage at the scene of the crime.
Their only hope was to drown it out. What song do you turn to in such a moment? What track could possibly mask the unspooling, awkward shame? And be long enough to guarantee that it masked it in its entirety? Well, one guest clutching at straws decided to play Bob Dylanâs classic âSad Eyed Lady of the Lowlandsâ. It certainly has an 11-minute runtime in its favour, but it was perhaps a rather solemn song for the situation. Still, it was a gesture that brought a small semblance of comfort to Yoko Ono.
She would later tell Mintz that she could indeed forgive Lennon for his behaviour but that she was not sure she could forget the harrowing incident that cast a dark shadow over their future. Soon after, the pair would take a break from each other, and he would set off on his Lost Weekend.
When he returned, and they rekindled their relationship against the odds, he commented, âItâs like â and this is no disrespect to anybody else I was having relationships with â but I feel like I was running around with me head off, and now Iâve got me head back on.â All it took was a phone call from Yoko Ono saying come back home. They marked the new chapter of their marriage with a small ceremony.
âItâs like I went out to get a coffee or a newspaper somewhere and it took a year â like Sinbad. I went on a boat and went around the world and had a mad trip, which Iâm glad is over,â he told NME. âYoko and I have known each other for nine years, which is a long friendship on any level. It was a long year, but itâs been a nine-year relationship and a seven-year marriage. Maybe it was the âseven-year itchâ. And apart from the pain we caused each other it probably helped us.â
He concluded: âWe knew we were getting back together. It was just a matter of when. We knew. Everybody else might not have, but we did.â
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